Leaving a marriage is a challenging time because almost every aspect of your life requires some adjustments. All of this is going to take a toll on you in some way. For many people, the unexpected things that they have to deal with make everything much more difficult. Being able to prepare for these ahead of time might be beneficial.
One thing that many people don’t realize is going to happen is that they are going to feel a wide range of emotions. Even if you are elated to be out of the marriage, you might still go through some negative feelings. These might include anger and sadness. You may even feel regret that you lost so many years on someone who didn’t do right by you. You could miss the sense of partnership that you had in the relationship.
You are also likely going to have to deal with the sense of loss that comes from not having your children with you as often as you’re accustomed to. They’re going to be spending time with your ex so you’ll have some time alone. This can be very lonely, but you should try to focus on self-improvement during that time.
Even though this is a time that you’ll need your friends and family members, you may find that you don’t have some of the ones you were counting on. People often feel the need to take sides in a divorce. This may cause some people to feel awkward, so they may leave you and your ex alone.
You’ll still need to handle the practical matters of the divorce. Working out a property division agreement and a parenting plan is part of this, so try to put your emotions aside to come to terms that are based on what’s practical and best.